Infidelity

Blame and shame make moving forward difficult.

If infidelity is the leading cause of your separation or divorce, guilt or shame can prevent you from building a life beyond it.

Like any other potentially harmful action or behavior, there is usually a reason. “I don’t know why I did it.” The why matters just as much as the result. “I’ve never felt that way before.”

Imagine understanding what led to the affair or infidelity and moving beyond the shame and guilt.

Blame plays a big part for many in the infidelity dynamic, and responsibility can replace the blame. Blame loves to hold hands with shame and not because they rhyme. We do the work of uncoupling these two.

Do you find yourself blaming your spouse or partner?

Yes, many people will indeed blame their spouse for the reason they cheated. When you take the time to look deep inside yourself, you’ll find freedom there.

The reaction to blame someone else or defend yourself will start to disappear.

“It just happened; it didn’t mean anything.”

Almost like you went unconscious for a period, and when you woke up, “that” happened.

We could probably agree here that nothing just happens. There could be an inability to communicate openly with your spouse about your needs and desires.

Feeling alone and not sharing this with your partner or spouse can create a great divide between you. This division can lead to a loss of love and respect.

I have developed a deep compassion for both sides of the infidelity equation. The journey back to wholeness is possible!

Living in limbo can be torture.

Infidelity, cheating, an affair, or whatever word you choose all carry the stigma of betrayal. Often both sides are left to wonder what happened. There is so much fear about reaching out for help, and fear of being judged is at the top of the list.

Blame and shame don’t get you anywhere. I can promise you that I am not your judge and jury. If you want to grow through this kind of trauma, you can.

You can reclaim self-love and trust by facing your choices and understanding your WHY.

Stop living in limbo. Contact me today.