Separation and Divorce Trauma

When “I do” turns into “I don’t.”

You may have fallen out of love. Perhaps you grew in different ways without knowing how to grow together.

A committed relationship may not be for you. You met someone else, or maybe there was abuse that you could not tolerate anymore.

There are lots of reasons to leave. What would you say if I told you those are only the surface reasons for leaving?

Without understanding the deeper reasons for these endings, you will likely attract the same type of people. You keep trying your old ways of being in relationships.

Guilt makes it challenging to move on.

“There must be someone out there who gets me!” You won’t find that person until you get who YOU are.

“Why is it still so hard to move on?” Some time has passed, and even though you’re the one that chose to leave the relationship, you feel like you should be better now. But you still feel stuck.

Expecting liberation, you jumped back into life but now realize there are a lot of leftover feelings to sift through.

I will guess that GUILT is at the top of the list. It can be challenging to move on and find happiness when there is lingering guilt.

Separation is an emotional time.

“I’m confused about what happened.” If you did not see this coming, it can be a real shock and a traumatic time.

The initial shock should have worn off by now, but your mind and body don’t exactly forget.

Missing someone and feeling lonely and confused are hard to get over. These feelings are all part of the separation process.

Relationship Roulette is what you’re playing.

Post-separation and divorce can bring up the future fear of being alone. The knee-jerk reaction is to get into another relationship, hoping the next one will be the one.

In your search for the one, you may find yourself in and out of relationships without much of a break.

Losing yourself in a relationship means you’re unsure how to be alone.

Learn to look at the patterns of your relationships.

What do you see? Separation can be shocking for your body and mind, and the shock of separation and divorce is a reality. Your body and mind tell you you are in unfamiliar territory.

One way to dispel uncertain future fears is to choose your healing path consciously.

Our work together addresses your unique healing path. We can take some time to look at those first relationships in your life through Somatic Attachment Therapy. The benefit of this therapy is that the process includes both the mind and the body.

We will give any hidden or obvious trauma the attention it deserves so life will make sense to you again, perhaps for the first time. Contact me today so we can start constructing what you do as the right thing for you to do.